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During the past 40 years from the 1969 – 2009, parenting has made some revolutionary changes in parenting styles. Traditional methods have been rejected in lieu of more conventional free thinking styles. Old school parents were not given a book on “How to Raise Children” that guaranteed success. Their knowledge was obtained from Grandmamma and relatives that passed on words of wisdom for raising children.

Grandmamma’s words of wisdom included teaching basic skills on how to your raise children with pride, respect and good manners. These basic characteristics were a reflection of the parents training they provided their children. It was a compliment for parents to hear people say “Mrs. Jones son sure has good manners” and “Her daughter is so respectful”.

By contrast, today’s New School parents have a very different philosophy about raising children. They encourage open debatable conversations with their children that reflect free thinking and if necessary will administer soft disciplinary tactics. Parents of the 21st century can delegate chores to their kids on cell phones while texting on their Blackberry and answer e-mails on laptops. Children of New School parents have advantages of instant information at their fingertips.

Parenting is a complex task that requires a huge amount of patience, love, and financial commitment. What impact has new school methods had on old school values? How has parenting evolved? What can we do to add more of Old School techniques back into the process?

Consider these old school techniques with new school twist:

The success of old school parents using the methods of “It takes a Village to Raise a Child” is still exhibited today in our baby boomers. New School parents can learn a lot from these old fashioned techniques.

Good Manners – goes a long way in life. They start at home with Mom and Dad. It’s not OK to talk with your mouth full, or belch at the table or roll your eyes and pout. Teach your children to exhibit good manner at school, church and at home.

A Sincere Love for Others – children that love themselves and love others will not disrespect other youth or adults. Old school parents believed that the greatest commandment was to love others and your neighbor. Who is my neighbor? Everyone!

Speak Positive Words – yes, its true words have power. Teach children to always speak positive words to others. Say something good about others. Negative word can hurt and offended others. Negative talk should not be allowed in family discussions. Parents have an awesome responsibility to teach positive communication skills that will motivate and encourage children to succeed at home, in school and in the workplace.